Why are you complaining?

Complaining doesn´t serve any good in any situation whatsoever unless you thrive off pity, which inherently means you are in a mindset that isn´t fit for personal growth anyway.

Nobody likes a complainer, you will alienate friends and family.

“People won’t have time for you if you are always angry or complaining.”
– Stephen Hawking

A complained assumes the role of victim instead of doer.

“You don’t make progress by standing on the sidelines, whimpering and complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas.”
– Shirley Chisholm

A complainer doesn´t learn from experiences, as they don´t think they could have done anything differently.

“Watch out for the joy-stealers: gossip, criticism, complaining, faultfinding, and a negative, judgmental attitude.”
– Joyce Meyer

A complainer lacks the ability to take responsibility, one of the key elements of learning, growing and leading.

“There are times in life when, instead of complaining, you do something about your complaints.”
– Rita Dove

A complainer is dishonest to themselves, which builds and reinforces poor integrity, one of the worst traits in men. Without personal integrity you have nothing.

“Remember, you and you alone are responsible for maintaining your energy. Give up blaming, complaining and excuse making, and keep taking action in the direction of your goals – however mundane or lofty they may be.”
-Jack Canfield

Complaining reinforces victimhood which reinforces lack of responsibility for situations, experiences and outcomes, which reinforces complaining.

“Complaining not only ruins everybody else’s day, it ruins the complainer’s day, too. The more we complain, the more unhappy we get.”
– Dennis Prager

Not complaining leads to more gratitude. Gratitude leads to a more positive outlook. More positive outlook leads to a happier life.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.”
– Zig Ziglar

Also, what do you really have to complain about? Kyle Maynard doesn´t complain.

Actually, he climbed a mountain despite being born without legs and arms.

Actionable advice:

In every single situation where something happens to you that you would complain about, just stop and think for a second if you gained anything from it, if you learned anything, if you are left wiser after it happened, than you were before, or does this new situation present a new opportunity?

Did someone else get a promotion before you, even though you (in your own eyes) deserved it more?
Awesome! You have a unique learning opportunity. Study the other person, learn from them, be humble.

Did the electricity cut out in your building?
Be grateful for the fact that you even have electricity int he first place, 1.3 billion people on earth don’t.
And be grateful for the fact that someone will be fixing the electricity for you. And in the meantime, practice some discipline that doesn´t require electricity.

Are you cold? Put on some clothes.
Are you hot? Take off some clothes.
Are you tired? Rest.
Are you hungry? Eat.
If the above answers aren´t applicable in your current situation, assess whether complaining about your state will alter your state. Probably not, right? So don´t complain about it. Do something about it.

And if you are stuck in a traffic jam on your way home from work due to an accident and it looks like it will be a long way before you will be on your way, don´t feel sorry for your little self, but be grateful for the fact that there are emergency services that are doing everything they can to take care of the people involved in the accident. You are nowhere near as important as them.

Have a good day.


One thought on “Why are you complaining?

  1. Did not get the reference to Kyle Maynard. It was crossed out- not deleted. So he does complain? Perhaps we all do but Nick Vujicic’s Autobiography Life Without limits is an inspiring read. He also has no arms and no legs.

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