It is becoming more and more universally understood that even though we are genetically different, most of our personality is shaped by our environment. We are a product of our environment, so to speak.
However, this does not mean that we can hide behind upbringing or current external situations and excuse our own personal failures or missed dreams on that.
It is not even a negative thing to realise, rather, it is quite beautiful, because as soon as you realise, you can with very simple steps prime yourself for success, rather than failure.
Change your influencers
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
― Jim Rohn
So who are the 5 people you hang out with? People who complain? People who expect more than they give? People who dream and perform big, or people who are happy being just where they are?
Take a look at your closest group of influencers (or friends/family/colleagues, whatever you want to call them) and do a bit of analysis. Are these people inspiring you? Are they pushing you to become better? Are they sharing your dreams and ambitions, or shooting them down? If you can answer yes to any of the above, perhaps you should change it.
And it doesn´t even have to be so “big level” with dreams and ambitions, also just if you are trying to lose weight, don´t hang out with people who think that is stupid and wants to hang at McDonalds every day. If you are trying to learn how to write articles online, don´t hang out with people who do nothing but criticize the idea and tell you that you can´t write anyway.
“We are all products of our environment; every person we meet, every new experience or adventure, every book we read, touches and changes us, making us the unique being we are.”
― C.J. Heck
But your environment doesn´t just come down to the people you surround yourself with, it is every single experience or encounter that you have in your life. And your environment will influence your personality for the rest of your life.
– Yes, personality can change. We are born with certain traits and you may have other traits ingrained so deep in you from environmental influences in your past, but everything can change. The most important way to do this is to influence your environment.
“The notion that we are products of our environment is our greatest sin; we are products of our choices.”
– Margaret Mead
But in order to do that, you need to take responsibility for your own life and actively change your environment. Your environment is where your decisions have you ending up. Therefore you need to make decisions that are good for you, instead of just what is easy or usual. Depending on what kind of change you need, these steps can be drastic, like letting go of a friend or partner, unsupportive family member or leave a job.
It might be less drastic steps and simply be to read books on productivity in the evenings instead of watching the Kardashians on repeat, if you are trying to improve your output in your day job. It can be something so simple as to throw out all sweets in your home to not even let late night snacking be a possibility, even if you wanted to.
“You are a product of your environment. So choose the environment that will best develop you toward your objective. Analyze your life in terms of its environment. Are the things around you helping you toward success – or are they holding you back?”
– W. Clement Stone
Moral of this article, which was intended to be super short and sweet, is; you have the ultimate power over your own life, and the best way to start change is to change the environment in which you operate for one which supports your goals the best.
If you want to be better at getting up earlier, don´t just rely on your own willpower, change your environment so you don´t have the option of not getting up.
If you want to be a more learned person with a better grasp of many different subjects, read more. If the tv is keeping you from the books, disconnect it. Or even better, cancel you Netflix subscription.
Have a nice day.