Life lessons learnt on the path to powerful personal development

If you are like me, you often find that another day has passed without you having achieved nearly all that you set out to do.

It is easy to set goals and dreams for all that you want to achieve in life, but it can be hard to actually live out those dreams and realise those goals.

Why is that? It seems logical and easy when planning it.

And we hear everybody saying:

“just be persistent, success will come if you just don´t give up”.

Which is great advice, don´t get me wrong. If you give up at first sight of adversity then you will not be creating anything.

However, just being persistent is not going to cut it. Maybe you are being persistent, but for only 20 minutes a day, as you can´t find time for more.
Maybe you start the days great and fly out of the gates in front position, and then engage in destructive behavior later which brings you back to your starting point.
Maybe you are being consistent, putting in tons of hours, but at the same thing without improving or learning.
Maybe you come in to work everyday thinking “today I am going to show them all”, and then meet your angry boss and loose motivation to do “anything for him/her”.

If you want to continuously improve and get closer to your goals, there is a lot of things you need to STOP doing and things that you need to start doing. And you need to do them all the time. It is not enough to set time aside to improve, you need to adopt a mindset of constant improvement in everything you do.

Part 1: DONT´S!

Don´t waste time on porn sites.

Limit your Social Media time.
Completely stop mindlessly “scrolling” through feeds.

Limit mindless internet browsing.
The internet is for information sharing and gathering. Use it as such.

Stop taking the internet and your phone for granted.
Be appreciative of the awesome knowledge bringing tools they are.

Stop following others.

Don´t look only at success stories for inspiration.
Look also at the failures and learn from their mistakes.

Don´t use your phone for anything other than message delivering and receiving, and information gathering.

Never arrive late, anywhere.

Stop focusing on material belongings.

Don´t try to chase and impress the opposite sex.

Stop expecting anything.
Nobody owes you anything.

Don´t be overly emotional in your reactions and behaviours.

Stop complaining.

Speak less, listen more. At least 2 to 1.

“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.”
–Epictetus

Never talk negatively about someone behind their back.
Do praise people behind their back if applicable, make sure their great achievements are seen by others. Do this to their face as well.

Don´t procrastinate. Do what is needed.
If you find it hard to work, break up the rythm, go for a walk, lie down for 10 minutes, sing a song.

“Don’t let your mind control you. Control your mind.”
― Jocko Willink

Be honest and don´t lie.
Always do what you say you are going to do.

Avoid “negative” people who drag you down.
Don´t engage in destructive relationships.

Part 2: Do´s!

Start your day early.

Get up when your alarm rings.

Follow a productive morning routine.

Treat your morning as the most important part of your day.

Be disciplined.

“Discipline equals freedom”
–Jocko Willink

Control your emotions.

Be proactive and take initiative in every situation you can.

Always plan and prepare for your days, tasks and encounters, but always be ready to pivot and adapt to any situation.

Focus only on what you can influence and stop spending mental energy on what you can´t.

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Journal daily.

Always carry a notebook and pen, and jot down every idea, thought or solution to an issue as they come to you.

Don´t be afraid to fail or do mistakes.
Make plenty of mistakes, but learn from them all.

“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.”
– Henry Ford

Reflect on everything.

Breakdown every little success and failure with pen and paper, learn from them.

Learn new skills and languages.

Read. Read more. Read self-help books.

Let go of pride and ego.

Find great people in your field and work with them.

Always give your best, no matter the task.

Memorise names and use them.

Give praise, recognition and positive feedback whenever you can.
And to everyone, colleagues, partner, barista, your children.

Practice gratitude.

Practice poverty.
Sleep on the floor, don´t shower or change clothes, don´t eat for a day, go for a barefoot walk in the cold with no electronics. The single best way to reconnect and be grateful for what you have.

Be practical.

Learn to differentiate between luxury and necessity.

Build and live by powerful habits.

Strive to learn something new, every day.

Remind yourself that everyone you meet know something you don´t.

Memorise and use names as much as possible.

Find a hobby, but make it a hobby that teaches you a new skill.

Always hear people out before replying.

Try to improve your communication and negotiation skills.

Start writing. Write about whatever it is you want to become better at.

Film yourself talking and giving presentations.
Improve based on what you see.

Treat all feedback as feedback.
Never get offended, always take it on and learn from it.

Meditate.

Eat healthy.

Work out, every day.

Get plenty of rest.

Always offer your help.

Attend as many courses, training, workshops and conferences you can.
And treat them all as learning opportunities.

Visualise your success. Practice it in your mind.

Spend time with creative, positive and energetic people.

“You are the average of the five people you most associate with,”
–Ferriss

Always be curious.
Always ask “how?” and “why?”.

Practice confidence. Fake it till you make it.
Often confidence is the only thing between you and the solution.

Do positive self-talk and affirmations.

Set goals for where you will be in 1, 5 and 10 years.
Be ambitious. Then 10x them. Break down how you will get there and set monthly goals for yourself. Revisit often.

Teach. Teaching is the best way to learn.

Adopt a positive attitude.

Realise that life is about learning and improving.
Practice it.

 

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